So, you’ve finally found ‘The One?’ Congratulations. I have good news and bad news for you.
The good news: You know who you want to spend the rest of your life with.
The bad news: Do you know her ring size? I didn’t think so. Now the hard work really begins. Besides figuring out how, when and where to pop the question, you need to find the right ring for your Mrs. Right.
Whatever you do, don’t just walk into the nearest jewelry store and come out with a small box in a bag after about an hour or two of looking and choosing.
This is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. It’s a lifetime decision, and it’s a ring she’ll be wearing for the rest of her life. Though nothing in life is perfect, if you know her taste and her ring size you will be sure to give the ring that is perfect for her.
So how best to find out her idea of the perfect ring without letting her figure out she may be getting one from you? Here are 7 sneaky ways to find her ring size and jewelry tastes.
1. The first and best place to start is with her.
Being sneaky requires patience so plan it out a bit and allow some time for information discovery. Don’t start asking her about ring preferences a month or less before you start shopping for one. Think longer term. Time is on your side, and the more time you invest, the more perfect the ring will be for her.
2. While casually watching TV, make conversation.
Better yet, wait for a jeweler commercial and ask, “Hey sweetie, what kind of jewelry do you like? Gold? Silver? White gold? Are you one of those women who have been planning their wedding since they were little girls? What kind of ring did you imagine? How do you know what’s good and what’s not?” These are just some of the somewhat innocuous questions you can start your research with.
3. Another good option is to talk to her closest friends.
Hit them up for advice, but be careful to differentiate what they think she likes and what they know she likes. Be very, very certain and specific. You don’t want to take any chances when it comes to selecting the ring that you hope will put the brightest look on her face – one that you will never forget for the rest of your life.
4. Family can help, too.
And if you’re on very good close terms with her family, or feel comfortable enough to involve them in the process early on and trust them not to spill the beans, ask her mom or sisters, or even close cousins to help you in your mission to mine the perfect gem and select the best possible setting for it.
5. Size her finger while she’s sleeping.
To find her ring size on the sly, some guys swear by waiting until she is sleeping and wrapping a slight piece of paper around her ring finger (it’s the second one in from the left, in case you’re a rookie). It does make a difference whether you use the left or right hand—commonly the hand she uses to write with is going to be as much as a half size bigger, so keep that in mind. Most rings come standard in a jewelry store as a size seven because they can be easily sized up or down a size or so from that point.
While we’re on the topic of sizing, try to avoid getting a ring sized any more or less than one size from what you need since it can compromise the stones, especially if you are buying a ring with side stones. It’s best to custom order “off sizes” instead, to avoid the hassle of losing diamonds. Allow for an extra 10 days or so to do this.
6. Feign a ring purchase for someone else.
Take her along on a trip to a jewelry store and pretend that you’re buying a ring for a niece, sister, mother, or other relative as a birthday or special occasion gift. Ask her to try on some rings and either judge sizes that way. An even more foolproof way is to call the jeweler ahead of time, tell them your plan, and have them determine her size as she’s trying rings on. This drastically reduces the chance for sizing errors.
7. See if she has any existing rings.
Finally, a thought that may never have occurred would work well if you live with your future fiancée. Just look in her jewelry box and find a ring she rarely wears, and borrow it for the afternoon to get the proper size from any local jeweler. If you can do this covertly it would work best, but make sure you don’t get caught or you’ll have some explaining to do.
There you have it — a bunch of possible resources to utilize in discerning what your love loves when it comes to THE ring. What are you waiting for? Remember, there is no such thing as too early when it comes to getting started.